Thursday, November 22, 2018

"I was devastated by my husband's assisted death."

Alex Schadenberg
Executive Director - Euthanasia Prevention Coalition

Simon & Deborah Binner
A few days ago I published the article: She now opposes assisted suicide, after her husband died at a Swiss assisted suicide clinic concerning the book by Deborah Binner about the death of her husband at a Swiss assisted suicide clinic and the natural death of her daughter.

Today BBC published an article by Claire Williams concerning the interview by Victoria Derbyshire with Deborah Binner. This article provides more information about her experience with the assisted suicide death of her husband Simon. The BBC article states:

"There was a sense of people saying, 'Hasn't he done a wonderful thing?' But I had two children who were in bits," 
"Simon's death wasn't bad - but when you open the gate, what happens next?" she says. "Older lonely people, or people sitting on lots of money, people already feel a burden - it's something, how we value human life, that really worries me."
In the previous article Deborah suggested that filming Simon's death influenced his interest in assisted suicide.
He was keen to document his experience — he had a strong altruistic streak and wondered if it would be of use to someone else. Subconsciously, I thought he’d forget about it and we could get on with living, albeit in a different way, as we had with Chloë. But he deteriorated quickly over the next few months.
Deborah explains, in the BBC article, that she felt that her husband's attempted and then decision to die at a Swiss assisted suicide clinic almost backed her into a corner:
When Simon traveled to the clinic in Switzerland to die, in October 2015, he was accompanied by his wife and a film crew. 
The resulting BBC documentary, How to Die: Simon's Choice, was the only good thing to come out of it, Deborah says. 
"He had an altruistic streak so he felt that letting them follow him would benefit lots of people. 
"It was almost backing me into a corner and making me feel there was something worse. He was showing 'how desperate I am'.
The fact that Deborah lost a daughter three years earlier to cancer created conflicting feelings about assisted suicide. Deborah states:
Chloë's death had been gentle, which Deborah says was the key to her being able to live on. 
"How Simon died - it was so different - there was the worry if we were doing the right thing.
Deborah's book - Yet Here I Am is about her experiences with the assisted suicide death of her husband and the natural death of her daughter Chloë a few years earlier.

1 comment:

Edmay said...

Deborah Binner my profound condolences to you and your children. I also went through that with my sister. Prior to losing my sister I lost my mother and father to cancer, NO euthanasia. I was and will always be against it. I supported my sister, since it was her choice, not knowing what was ahead. It was devastating and I found no closure in that. All I can do to try and get those images out of my mind is think about the good times we had. It's almost 2 years and I am still strugglng with it. December - January are the worst month of the year for me. I just want to skip those months. God Bless you and your children! Edmay